It’s so easy to laugh at others isn’t it? Starts out as mere ‘teasing’ — at least that’s how we choose to define it. How does the Miriam Webster Dictionary define tease?
Definition of TEASE transitive verb
1a : to disturb or annoy by persistent irritating or provoking especially in a petty or mischievous way b: to annoy with petty persistent requests : pester c: to persuade to acquiesce especially by persistent small efforts : coax d: to manipulate or influence as if by teasing e : to make fun of : kid
2: to tantalize especially by arousing desire or curiosity often without intending to satisfy it
Honestly, none of those definitions mean anything good or worthwhile, do they? Some people say they are trying to “toughen up” their victims. However, teasing is merely making fun of people for petty, selfish reasons, usually hurting the recipient emotionally. And rather than speaking out about it, or unable to keep up with a torrent of feeling unwanted, unliked, alone and frightened, the victims almost never open up about their pain.
In the movie, “To Save a Life,” tragedy struck. After the death of a childhood friend, a popular teen risks his own social standing by reaching out to classmates who are usually shunned. This doesn’t only occur in schools today, but in the workforce, in social clubs, and at various social levels. Do you really understand how any one of us could slight another, purposely putting them down in some way? Suppose that person everyone laughed at eventually felt so worthless and alone, they committed suicide. Would you laugh then? Would you feel any guilt or remorse?
Sadly many people are afraid to open up to people for fear of what others may think of them. If you’re blessed to have good friends and family, you can connect and communicate.
Through the trials in our lives, some far worse than others, we learn and grow from these experiences. Sometimes, the trial is so tragic, we feel isolated and alone, or even worse – we feel guilty when we have nothing to guilt ourselves about. I’m able to speak from experience as survivor of a spouse who completed suicide. I’m making progress in the healing process after eight months, but there is still a long journey left. I was told tonight that I’m an inspiration. That made me really think. If I’m going to try to make a difference to others, then I need to convey what I have learned thus far.
There is a quote I hold dear. Hopefully it makes its way to your heart and you’ll understand why we need to avoid some of the pain we help place upon others.
It has been said, time heals all wounds. I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind (protecting its sanity), covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.” ~ Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy
Perhaps we need to be aware of life’s joys and imperfections. That means talking about the uplifting moments as well as the difficult situations allowing people to more fully associate with the idea that whether physical ailment or mental ailment, we must address them all. We need to help one another before, during and after … and to share our information whenever it is needed.
Keep on ‘sharing the light’ ….