Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain, can we truly know what love means.
The other day, while discussing my late husband’s suicide, I came across a woman who was upset that her ex boyfriend had found someone else to love and married her. She couldn’t understand and said that this hurt her. But why? She had said good-bye to him and told him she could not merely be friends with him.
Let’s talk of the simple act of giving without wanting anything in return. Many of us are unconsciously so self-centered that everything we do, even within our closest relationships, is actually bartering rather than unselfish giving. This can be true even when we are dealing with ourselves.
We all realize giving on any level feels really good, but internally all forms of giving are not equal. When we give with expectation of receiving something in return, we are not really letting go of what we are giving are we? If we do not let go completely, we still cling to whatever we gave.
Giving unconditional love requires us to love without any expectations. It seems difficult to only love and not demand anything in return in today’s world where everyone is selfish and egotistic. But even in this world we see many examples of unconditional love, for example the love a mother gives to her child, the love between two life partners and the love bestowed upon siblings. To love unconditionally you will have to learn to sacrifice your self, your desires and most importantly your ego.
First of all remember you are not supposed to expect anything from the person you love. It’s true that love makes its way itself. When you love somebody with so much passion and ardor, it’s sure to come round in one way or another. But if somehow you don’t get as much as you give, don’t complain or argue. Always keep in mind that loving others and giving them everything you have will make you satisfied and happy with yourself. If not, then move on.
We need to develop strong will power to love unconditionally. At some point in our lives we all demand some kind of love and want to express our own love for someone. Believe in the principle of giving more and demanding less. When someone asks you for a favor always be ready to give it. Never complain that you don’t have enough time or you have other tasks to do.
When you love somebody unconditionally you want the best for that person. Think positively about them even if they make mistakes or do not return your feelings. Give them sincere advice about their future and other decisions. Always look around for the betterment of your loved ones without any envy on your part. If you have to sacrifice something of your own for them, don’t hesitate to do so. Only then you will truly be able to love unconditionally.
Remember unconditional love is given without expectations or limitations. You don’t define any scope of your love or how long will you love a person. This is an eternal feeling which should be kept alive in all circumstances and all situations. Never lose hope and keep on loving people who are dear and close to you, only then you will be able to live a completely satisfied and emotionally balanced life.