We Are Family – My Dogs and Me!


Dogs invite us into their world, and through that, our lives are deeply enriched.  My two beautiful white boxers, Miley and Casey, have brought me such happiness, love and calm after a terrible tragedy befell me.  They are a God-send.  I post this in order to celebrate our love and devotion for dogs, which in turn is reciprocated many times over by their love and devotion for us.

There is so much we can truly learn from dogs.  They teach us how to go with the flow of life.  And they are the kindest, most caring and devoted animals known to humankind. 
Dogs have become a part of our family and a part of our personal history. They live in the house with us; they sit and sleep together with us. They have brought something unique and fulfilling to our lives. They have loved us unconditionally and have taught us important lessons for better living — how to embrace life, how to enjoy the moment, how to let go when it’s time to let go, even when it seems way too soon.

While we struggle to figure out why we were put here on Earth, all a dog wants is to love and be loved — a powerful lesson for us all.



Furry Shrink

I’d double her life if I could —
we share a history.
When friends turn false, my dog stays true,
her head upon my knee.

She can erase my loneliness —
my pain melts in her eyes.
My dog lies close — she understands
what I cannot disguise.


I came across a couple of poems written about our love for dogs.

I think you’ll agree with their sentiments below.


 The Greeting

I open the door.
You are already
bounding to the door
with a wagging tail,
flashing teeth,
and four prancing paws.
Your healing power dissolves
the most difficult day
from memory.
A cold nose
and warm kisses
trigger a child’s laughter
from my heart.
I am a better human
for having you
in my life.

— Joan Noëldechen




Puppy Days

Bless this frisky puppy
Who’s into everything
His playful fresh behavior
Is like a day in spring

Remind me to be patient
When he’s chewed another book
Or races through the living room
With a newly laundered sock

He loves without condition
Gives me kisses every day
And greets me with a wagging tail
After I have been away

Like any other baby
He needs a lot of rest
When he falls asleep curled next to me
I know that I am blessed

— Louise Webster





If I greeted everyone happily
Instead of eyeing with distrust
If I didn’t pass judgment
But accepted all
If I listened intently
With understanding in my eyes
If I brought comfort
All the time, no matter what
If I loved unconditionally
Without reservation
If I lived life more simply
Instead of worrying so much
If I played tirelessly
And didn’t work so hard
If I made people smile
Just by my presence in the room
If I experienced true joy
At the little things in life
Then I’d be the perfect friend
Just like my dog. 



How Will You Play Cards You’re Dealt

The Elephant in the Room…

I lost my late husband about 11 months ago when tragedy occurred:  he took his own life.  For a few months after this traumatic event, I lived a dying existence.  Nothing mattered; I had no interest in any social events or activities which used to please me.  There was no pleasure in my life at that time. 

Today I have reasons for happiness.  Don’t misunderstand me – I remember him always knowing we were in love and shared immense happiness.   However, each day now I fill my world with a bit more love and joy in the little things.  How can I not?  My girls, two white boxers I rescued – or did they rescue me – share with me each day their unconditional love and endless forgiveness.  What could be better. 

That hole in my heart will always exist.  Though I can say with certainty that the healing process continues and I am inspired by Randy Pausch’s Last Lecture.  I am moved to finding all the ‘happy’ moments in my world and to enjoying the life I have.   Because when all is said and done, as Randy mentioned:  it’s about how you play the cards you’re dealt! 

Recently I came across the following story of Randy Pausch who used the Last Lecture to engage people to live life instead of just going through the motions.  The talk was modeled after an ongoing series of lectures where top academics are asked to think deeply about what matters to them, and then give a hypothetical “final talk”, with a topic such as “what wisdom would you try to impart to the world if you knew it was your last chance?”  


I’d like to share it with you here and encourage you to follow his lead with your life.


The brick walls are not there to keep us out; the brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something.”    ~Randy Pausch


Randy Pausch was 47 years old when he died from pancreatic cancer.  He was, as the Independent of London put it, “The dying man who taught America how to live.”  His book, The Last Lecture, is an international best-seller and it proffers many brilliant lessons about life. 

Randy Pausch’s “last lecture” was delivered September 2007, at Carnegie Mellon University, where he taught computer science.  The lecture began with him standing before a screen beaming down chilling CT images of tumors in his liver, under the title:  The Elephant in the Room.  He then said to a stunned audience, “I have about 6 months to live.”  He said, “I’m really in good shape, probably better shape than most of you,” dropping to the floor to do push-ups. 

He went on to say, “I’m dying and I’m having fun, and I’m going to keep having fun every day I have left.”  He talked about his childhood dreams and what they had taught him about life.  He said, “If you live your life the right way, the karma will take care of itself … your dreams will come to you.”

Randy Pausch really was a dying man who helped teach us how to live. 

He died on July 25, 2008 but his wisdom, his passion and his attitude are lasting sources of inspiration for all of us. 

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How Do We Heal a Heart And Life Lessons


It is one of those evenings when sleep eludes me and yet I feel a need to create.  Usually this occurs in writing.  And although the hour is late, from a gathering of thoughts I am posting in the hopes that I will reach someone out there who will be touched and will understand. 

When we are affected by a serious loss, be it a loved one’s death, loss of a job, financial conflicts, an accident creating loss of limb or mental capacity, there is always a life lesson to learn. 

Both love and loss gift us with extraordinary life lessons.  Some of these are elegant; some shatter us and bring us to our knees in devastation.  They’re all necessary to open our hearts to wisdom and faith.  Often we are stronger than we think!  I know this firsthand as a survivor of suicide – my husband completed suicide May 4, 2010 and I have healed so much, yet there is still further to go.  And suicide is something you never ever get over completely.  You merely learn to live through it. 

And I believe in the words of Winston Churchill who said, “If you think you’re going through Hell, keep on going!”


We all know that hearts are healed in time, but I believe that there are things we can do to make the process of inner healing just a little more tolerable.

It helps to remember that the pain is in the resistance.  It really is true that what we resist persists; I know that I have.  For the first six months after my husband’s death, I didn’t live; I merely went through life as a dying soul .  The more we fight reality, that which we cannot change, the more pain we experience.  The more we surrender and let go, the more we open ourselves to the natural flow of life so that the power of love can transport us to a new space of peace and acceptance.

I love the healing words of Achaan Chaa, who reminds us:

Praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and sorrow come and go like the wind. To be happy, rest like a great tree in the midst of them all.