About

  It’s a new world out there folks and I’m poking around to get a better sense of it.

I’ve been a puppet, a pirate, a pawn and a king!  At least it often feels that way.  I was  manager for a major luggage retailer, married, moved to Florida then divorced, and became a Paralegal for a large law firm.  Too many billable hours for me and thus I jumped ship to help develop an Investor Relations Department for a major online retailer.

Fifteen years later, I married the man of my dreams and pre-retired to follow my lifelong goal to write.  It was my vision to one day have a nationally syndicated column.   Our world is ever-changing.  The Weblog (BLOG) has huge impact on our lives.  And yes, I’m searching and creating and moving into the blogging world.

Then my world fell apart.  My husband of only a few months died via suicide.  Heartbreaking, gutwrenching, trying to rebuild myself and heal.  This blog has become somewhat of a forum.  After all, it’s entitled “Speak Up!” and thus, I am following that phrase.  I believe after all the research, support groups and counseling that the majority of people know little or nothing about the survivors of their loved ones completing, or even attempting, suicide.  The statistics are enormous and we need to just open up about it, spread the information around rather than false rumors and gossip.  If your body was hurting, if you were gravely ill with Cancer or another life-threatening disease, would you not seek out medical help?  Then why shouldn’t we help ourselves and our loved ones seek out emotional help for depression and other related illnesses?  We need to be more candid about this epidemic and that’s what I’m attempting to inspire others to do here.

11 comments on “About

  1. Hi, whoever you are! I appreciate your journey and also your mention of my book, “Consequential Strangers.” I found you via Google Alerts, and it always does my heart good to know that I’m reaching people. I think this is such an important concept, and I need people like you to spread the word. Thanks! And, now, will you tell me a little more about you?
    Melinda Blau

    • After recently marrying the love of my life, I am recently widowed. My husband completed suicide which was a complete shock; still is. I’m in the midst of trying to heal from all of this and realize your concept is proven to be of significant “consequence” to me. I’m still lost but am doing all I can to learn who I am again.

      • As a journalist, I hear many people’s stories, and I am always impressed by the resilience of the human spirit. Personally, too, I have always found that the greatest growth comes from the greatest challenges. You have yourself, and you seem to have a solid core. A wise aunt of mine always reminds me: Ït’s not what happens to you in life that matters; it’s how you handle it. I wish you strength — and good relationships. In the book, I write about a widow who lost her husband of 37 years and found a whole new source of relationships at a greek diner!
        Take care,
        Melinda Blau

  2. Hello Melinda. With the upcoming Christmas holiday, I realize even more how significant the theme and values of your book are. And I realize the relevance of healing and telling. Spread the Word is one another motto of mine, along with Seak Up.

    This will be my first Christmas, and birthday (Christmas Eve) without my Martin. It is another stumbling block and challenge I’m trying to go through. With this in mind, I wish you, and others, Happy Holidays and memories!

  3. Thank you so much. My greatest pleasure is to know that my writing and my thoughts reverberate with readers. I can’t imagine how much you must miss Martin. He is with you in your heart and mind, and will forever influence the way you see things. He would have wanted you to go on, to connect with others, and to continue to live to your fullest potential, I’m sure.

    Best to you,
    Melinda

  4. Hi Melinda,
    Sounds as though you have been through the ringer. It happens to all of us in different ways. I’ve had my share, but I’ve been very lucky too, including three great sons and finally a wonderful partner, and much much more. I started my blog out of fear for my life due to an abdominal aortic aneurysm (AAA), and interestingly it has expanded my life, not diminished it. I have found that I am now much more involved in my local community, instead of shutting myself away in my safe left-brain world of science. Blogging took me to the AAA Facebook group, where people need support that I can provide by talking about the issues. Furthermore, my blog has brought me closer to some family (of origin) members in Europe.
    So, keep up the good work. Life is clearly whatever we decide to make of it.
    Best wishes,
    @FitOldDog aka kevin morgan

  5. Thank you Kevin for your words of wisdom and kindness. It sounds like you’re on the right path – the one you’re supposed to travel. I think any trauma, or tragedy, we face helps us, if we allow it to, in order to begin a different journey somehow. We travel a path unknown to us and yet, if we accept the way things are presently, we will not diminish as a person. Instead we grow and help others to grow. Frankly, this is what I’ve strived at for much of my life. Although I felt as if I floundered. Now, I have a sense of some GPS in the universe giving me a bit of direction. The rest is up to me.

    Isn’t that the way it’s supposed to be? I suppose after so many years and challenges, this is why they deem us older folks as wise! That’s why the cliche: what doesn’t kill us often makes us strong.

    My best to you – I intend to keep in touch with how you’re doing. Hopefully, you do likewise. And keep up your good work! Happy Thanksgiving I hope.

    Best wishes,
    Joan Pyke

  6. You’re welcome Jill. I hope should you find inspiration that you pass it along to help others. I certainly continue to enjoy your Facebook page! And thank you for checking on me and my blog! ~ Joan

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