Does Life Hit You Hard … Is Your Life Good?


There’s so much we can learn from pets, especially dogs.  I have three female dogs – my little angels on earth.  Their devotion, undying love and friendship all are mine.  They have an inner sense of our feelings too.  When we’re happy – they are happy!  When we are distressed, they offer their hand (a paw) and kisses (or licks) to help ease the pain.  We have so much to learn from them in our daily lives.

Recently I watched the movie “City of Angels” which stars Nicholas Cage and Meg Ryan.  She portrays a doctor who loses her first patient and then cannot understand why she suddenly feels so small.  He portrays one of God’s Angels here on earth watching over us.  And he tries to console and help her with the anguish and emotional doubts she suffers.

Later on in the movie Cage (the Angel) asks Meg (the doctor) why humans cry.  Her best effort at an answer is, “Maybe … maybe emotion becomes so intense your body just can’t contain it.  Your mind and your feelings become too powerful and your body weeps.”

That’s it isn’t it?  When I lost my husband Martin by suicide, the overwhelming emotion was more than my body could repress or control and my body wept.  We are designed with an internal mechanism to help us in times of brutal emotion, pain and suffering.  Thus it is why this type of grief takes a long time to work through.  And although it has been two years since his suicide, I still have those moments though they are fewer than they were two years ago.  We never really know how we will react to hardship but our body and mind are made to do what they need to do.   Randy Pausch said, “It’s not how hard you hit.  It’s how hard you get hit … and keep moving forward.”

Which leads me to realize that if we did not know fear, pain, or hunger and never heard music or encounter a magnificent sunrise how could we say we truly felt anything?  Strangely though it may seem, we learn to cope with pain and suffering only by experiencing both.  Just like we enjoy the summer growth of flowers, plants and trees we also admire their brilliant foliage in the Fall as they ready to die and rest through the cold of winter.  I believe C.S. Lewis said it best, “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.”

One of my goals is to truly enjoy life and enjoy my girls – yes, the dogs.  Today – Sunday – I wanted to finish this blog in order to post it.  But it was a bright and beautiful day and the girls kept staring at me as if to say, “Mom, aren’t we going to have some fun?  Can we go out and play?”

So what did mom decide to do?  Work or play … it’s a difficult chore for me, knowing how I was raised to do the ‘right’ thing.  Surprisingly, I realized the ‘right’ thing to do in my ‘2nd chance with my girls’ was to go outdoors with them and play in the pool.  And we had the absolute best time we have ever shared!  And you see, I am finishing this article for my blog, just a bit later than I had on my personal timeframe.

Life is a mystery and I suppose we could agree that death is also.  It is said that there are no “do overs” in life.  But every now and then, I believe that we are gifted with a second chance.  I lost my one true love two years ago.  But God brought me my three little angels who love me like no other human could.  And the question remains: what am I going to do with it?  How am I going to play my second chance?  Stay tuned and I’ll let you know.  In the meantime I ask you, “How will you play your chance at life?”

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.  Don’t wait until it’s too late!

I don’t know about the rest of you, however, as for me I’d like to say each day without regret, “Today I loved and lived life … and it was good!”


Life = Dancing in the Rain

  Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass … it’s about dancing in the rain! 

This quote sits atop my blog reminding me to enjoy the moments I have right now, not to wait until the rain in my life passes.  When tragedy strikes engulfing your spirit in sadness, it’s very easy to forget the meaning in happiness and enjoying life.  Though as I’ve been blogging, stealing looks at that quote, it has inspired me and I’m realizing why I placed it there originally. 

Are you hunkered down, laying low and awaiting a better economy?  I’m optimistic that things will improve, but I don’t have a crystal ball and do not know with certainty.  I choose to believe.  What if you decided to choose to appreciate where you are right now?  What if you chose to believe there are positive things to be gained right now – to choose how you view life and your situation.  Which would you choose:  waiting or dancing? 

Many people believe they can only enjoy life to the fullest when they have a lot of money, are in a wonderfully romantic relationship, have a beautiful home with attached large mortgage, have a successful career, and so on.  Not so! Consider that money and things do not buy happiness, they only make misery more comfortable. 

True happiness isn’t found in the “whens” of life, but rather within us and within our reach.  Having the motivation to be open to new and different ways of viewing ourselves and embracing our ability to adapt to changes is central to the process of finding and sustaining happiness. 

  Now is the time to dance, because the longer you just wait, the easier it is to keep waiting … endlessly … and then life passes you by.  Regrets form and you spiral even further.  You can never recapture that time; it’s lost forever. 

 The perfect time to dance will never come.  Dance while things seem unacceptable and are imperfect and things will get better.  It will create more smiles, give us a brighter outlook, and enable us to take steps forward toward enjoying life with all its inherent flaws.   Happiness will develop. 

So start dancing, now is the time.   What are you waiting for?